You don't have to feel stuck forever! Stop emotional trauma for good!
Are you ready to actually stop emotional trauma from driving you crazy?
Do you continuously replay events from the past in your mind, cringing at your behaviours, or even getting angry about how you acted?
If we are not careful our minds turn into an old beat up record, circling round, and round the same old thoughts driving ourselves crazy. This is one of the most common things we do as humans!
This constant repeating of the past can be detrimental to our progression forward. These old thoughts, and beliefs of ourselves can be toxic!
It isn’t necessarily our fault that we get stuck in these self-destructing ideas of who we are.
I have experienced this extremely limiting behavior first hand, and just when I thought I nipped it in the butt… BOOM the thoughts come back. For me I have had the reoccurring thought of not being good enough. I spent most of my young life hating my body, and even thinking I wasn’t very smart. I constantly compared myself to others, and I brought these limiting ideas all the way through my 20’s.
For the past few years I have been working harder then ever on my mind. I have been focusing on my personal development, and creating a much more positive mindset. I can honestly say this new found knowledge of how to think better thoughts, and ask healthier questions is really paying off!
About 7 days ago I had a moment with myself in the mirror. I couldn’t believe the person that I have become in such a short time!
A year ago… Last December, I was crying nearly everyday… Eating my emotions… Losing my hair… Drinking away my sorrows, and struggling with where I was going! I was sitting in a cloud of weed smoke nearly every weekend, with a drink in my hand, assessing my surroundings, and feeling like I didn’t fit in anymore.
At that point I had already chose to be a full time entrepreneur, and I was failing miserably. Nearly everyone around me had already lost hope in my business, and I was starting to really doubt that I could pull this thing off.
From December to February I really struggled with my identity! I didn’t feel like I belonged in my group of friends anymore. I knew I had to stop partying if I was going to make my business happen! I also knew if I wanted to lose weight I had to start taking better care of my body, and stop eating my emotions! This was really challenging for me. My ex had people over nearly every Friday & Saturday night. The music pumping, and party favours flowing until 4, 5, 6 am, and there was always naughty food lingering around. Temptation was always under my nose, but to be honest I was sick of it!
I had to make a decision! I either stay down stairs, and keep doing the things that are making me feel shitty & stuck… Keep putting myself in an environment where I feel I don’t belong… OR I get really uncomfortable short term!
So for the next few months I stayed upstairs! While the party was pumping below my feet… In MY HOME… I hunkered down! I worked on my biz until that music shut off… Sometimes I would even outlast the party because I was so pissed off about my life, and my circumstances.
I wanted to prove to everyone that this dream I had was something I was going to accomplish! Most of all I wanted to prove it to myself!
Thank goodness for my dear friend Alex! At the beginning of February Alex brought my attention to a Marketing System that would take me from being an amateur Online Marketer to what we like to call an Attraction Marketer. (An Attraction Marketer is someone who puts themselves out there, creates a brand based on them, instead of a product or service they are selling.)
This Marketing System changed my life. I was instantly surrounded by people who understood me! Like minded entrepreneurs who were all at one point struggling in their businesses! The part I found the most crazy was these people had all been going through identity crises too!
See the thing is… MOST people who have big ideas never actually go for them because of limiting beliefs! MOST people believe that their circumstances, or emotional trauma is the reason why they can’t do something.
This is simply not true!
Many people on this planet have been through way worse things then I have been… Struggled way harder then I could ever imagine… BUT on the other hand there are so many of us who simply deal with the concept that they are not good enough, or feel they are unworthy of having a life they desire!
This is the number one reason why we cling to our addictions! Whether you are addicted to food, drugs, alcohol, or unhealthy relationships… Quite possibly all the above like I was… You may not see it as a problem yet. You may not understand why it is that you are feeling lost in the perpetual cycle of addiction.
My friend… That is ok!
Trust me when I say… I know it is hard to evolve, and ditch old habits & beliefs.
Something else I know… Is that it is a hell of a lot harder to keep festering in a life that no longer feels good to you!
Emotional trauma is a real thing! No matter how small of a thing we think our problems might be, it isn’t necessarily the “problem” that makes our lives so bad. It is the broken record effect that we hear on replay over and over again. It is how big of a deal we make the small things out to be!
Everyday for years & years I told myself I was fat. I told myself I wasn’t as pretty, or smart as other women… Like I said before, these thoughts of not being good enough kept following me.
Just a few days ago when I saw myself in the mirror I felt like I was at an all time high! It may have been the first time I have ever felt so confident in my physical body! I was flabbergasted to be quite honest!
Then literally a couple days later… After a couple too many Mexican meals my stomach expanded, and that bean & cheese baby gave me a flashback to my old self. It was in an instant… I suddenly saw that old version of me. I saw that sad chubby gal staring back at me in the mirror.
I cried. I felt devastated. I couldn’t believe I felt this way again.
I am very blessed to be with a very supportive man now… My Adventure Partner Brian comforted me, and said the most nurturing things to me.
I must say, that wasn’t enough!
Most people would think I am nuts for not taking the reassurance, but something I am SO sure of now is that you absolutely have to love yourself more… Or else those beautiful compliments don’t mean a thing.
This was a very short moment of pain for me. THANK GOODNESS! Since I have engulfed myself in Personal Development, and yoga… These moments of victimhood are very brief!
You may even be thinking I built a mountain out of a mole hill in this instance…
What I am here to tell you is that you should never discount your emotional trauma! Feelings accumulate over a lifetime!
Your feelings are very real! Your experiences are very real!
The lesson here is… How much longer are you willing to buy into your emotional trauma?!
Because I have felt this pain so many times… This feeling of not being good enough has revealed to me a trend. When I slip into a funk sometimes I just need a cry, and then it is over!
I know in myself that eating well, doing yoga & exercising makes me feel great! I also know that tapping into personal development on a daily basis is a must for me to keep my thoughts positive! I also know this is the absolute only way I can inspire others, and run a successful business! I must be backed by positive actions that I am taking on a daily basis!
You must realize it is ok to fall back into these old thoughts… But you gotta empower yourself with the right tools, so you can pull yourself out of those whirlwinds, and keep moving forward!
When you get into a situation where you are seeing the old version of you standing in the mirror stop for a moment, and look deeper! Recognize this version of you right now, and give yourself some credit! Commend yourself for all the things you have accomplished up to this point in your life! If you can’t think of anything, start with the smallest things! You are bound to muster up something… Even if that something is being in absolute awe that your eyes blink on their own, and that your heart beats without you having to ask it to!
We are much stronger then our emotional trauma! The more we buy into our limiting beliefs of ourselves the more we feed into the past… The life we no longer want to live!
If you want to change your life you have got to change your thoughts!
Know that it is ok for those old negative thoughts, or stories to come up… When they do, ask yourself how much air time are you willing to give them!?
What am I meant to learn from this old emotional trauma, or story that I keep telling myself?
For me I know these moments of self doubt keep coming up to test me! My greatest goal in life is to teach people to love themselves, and empower themselves to achieve their ultimate greatness! These moments are humbling, and they remind me of where I have come from! Even when the mirror is playing tricks on me… I still know who I am becoming… I still know what it is that I am setting out to achieve, and I am not going to let some shitty old limiting beliefs get in the way of my greatness… OR get in the way of my capability to inspire others to stretch, and reach for their greatness!
We are all in this together, and we have all got something to offer!
So let me ask you this again!
How much longer are you willing to buy into your emotional trauma?
How long are you going to sit there, and let your emotions drive?
What is stopping you from standing up for your soul, and becoming the person you are meant to be?
It is time to stand up for that voice inside of you that is calling out. That voice in you that has big goals, has a vision, but is too scared to make a shift towards change!
Bright ideas don’t come to us to sit on, and wait and see…
These ideas are our gifts…
They are meant for you to follow through, so you can learn, and get to know yourself along the way!
So stop buying into your emotional trauma, and start buying into the greatest version of you!
XOxO Love within, love around.
Erin Nicole Bick
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