Well… Creating a balance between love and business certainly doesn't happen over night!
There is some fine tuning that needs to take place. Trial and error if you will!
For me… It took about 2 years of trial and error!
When I dove head first into the entrepreneurial world I was still a full time hairstylist! I was creating what most would consider a pretty solid income, and from an outsiders prospective I was living the dream.
I was in a longterm relationship… We owned a house together in Toronto, and we were both doing pretty good financially.
What most didn't know was how bad I was struggling!
We were partying nearly every weekend!
With the partying brought drugs, alcohol, you name it, and then crippled after every bender zombified in front of the TV.
I was in a whirlwind…
Spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
I was losing my hair, emotional eating, packing on the pounds, and having anxiety attacks nearly everyday.
I was completely lost! I didn't recognize the person I had become!
I knew if I didn't change nothing would!
Through a friend I found Personal Development! The idea of creating a business in PD was SO exciting to me!
I knew I wanted to change peoples lives! I also knew just one hair cut at a time was a slow climb! I wanted to reach more people faster, and working online seemed to me like the only way to get my message out there to the masses!
I jumped in right away!
My boyfriend at the time thought I was nuts… He couldn't believe the investment I made. It likely didn't help that I didn't really discuss it with him before getting started.
I jumped right in because of the belief, and potential I saw with it!
I imagined that it would change my life forever, and the truth is it did!
While I was taking a good amount of criticism from my boyfriend, and others around me… I kept chugging along.
I was learning a completely new skill set!
From standing behind the chair for 11 years, to working in front of a computer screen was a hard transition. A lonely transition…
The more Personal Development I did, the more I started to take a look at who I was surrounding myself with. I was identifying myself with the lifestyle, and fell back and forth between the person I wanted to be, and the person I was for another year.
Why so long you ask?
Because I had my head entirely up my ass!
I didn't have balance between ‘love' and business!
I went from full time Hairstylist, to part time, to full time entrepreneur in about 6 months.
I hadn't made a dime when I decided to quit, but in my mind I figured if I dedicated myself completely to my biz then I would surly start making great money soon.
I saw being full time at home as a opportunity to do what I wanted, when I wanted.
After two months of binge drinking, and drugs… I realized that only actually working my biz 3 days a week wasn't a successful strategy!
It was no ones fault but mine! I was choosing my mate, my friends, and the situations I was putting myself in! It wasn't fair of me to ask my friend to change who they were for me.
I had to make a choice!
I was so emotional, and messed up that I didn't have the capacity to be able to run a biz! Thank the sweet universe for Personal Development!
Personal Development shook me at a soul level out of my stooper! It made me look myself in the face, and take absolute ownership for my shit!
I realized then that I didn't have balance between the things I ‘loved”, and business! Shoot at that point I didn't even love myself!
Then the tides turned!
I began to start caring for myself better! I quit hard drugs on my 30th Birthday, and spent the next year diving deep into my personal growth! I began to fuel my body with nutrition, and really focused on meditation & fitness.
There was a point when I finally realized that I felt great!
I finally loved myself!
Along with this came a pretty tough realization.
I realized my purpose in life, which was absolutely beautiful…
But I also realized that I was no longer in alignment with my boyfriend… We wanted WAY different things!
If I kept riding the party train with him, I would never be able to help people the way I was imagining!
The balance between love, and business shifted. I was torn, but I had to move on!
I realized I had to love me more then anything else! I had to fuel myself with love, and positivity to actually be able to achieve my lifes greatest mission!
Becoming an entrepreneur lit a fire in me to contribute to this planet!
At first it was a money driven concept, but then it evolved into something greater then me!
Through all of this self growth I was imagining what it was I truly wanted! I was imagining a supportive partner… Someone who got excited for me, understood me, and wanted to participate in life with me!
I couldn't be more pleased to say I got all I wanted and more!
First I found me!
I made a vision…
I set goals… I took full on action towards them, and there he was…
The Universe lined me up with someone who was on the same path!
Our beliefs lined up, our dreams, our desires, our ambition!
To find balance between love and business, you first have to find that love in yourself!
When I didn't love myself my business would stand still because I was searching for love from outside sources, and I was participating in behavior that didn't serve my evolution!
With a strong sense of self love, and inner balance we can attract someone on the same page!
Someone who wants to work as hard as we do, but also appreciates spending quality time together!
Someone who gives us space to be ourselves, and supports our dreams!
It is the respect for oneself that creates the clarity we need to go out, and live a life by design!
So go out there, and create balance between love, and business!
You deserve it!
XOxO Love within, love around.
PS. If you are ready to take your life into your own hands! You're ready to start loving yourself more, attract business to you, and a magnetic love… Book a complimentary Vision Call with me!